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status update : week 25

Friday, May 30th, 2008

We are both upbeat this week after making a decision to switch practices, which is a great thing, considering we are basically out of options covered by our insurance at this point in time. I spoke at length with a midwife where I will be transitioning to, and I was almost overcome with emotion because she actually seems to UNDERSTAND where I am coming from and what I am looking for in a practice.

First of all, let me clarify. These midwives don’t offer homebirth deliveries. They deliver in a hospital. I know this relieves many of you to hear. :) However, be prepared. I might seriously consider a homebirth in the future.

Pros of the new practice:

1. Four midwives. As opposed to close to ten midwives. Smaller practice, which means we will get to know all of the midwives (and they will in turn get to know us).
2. Wireless fetal monitoring. Meaning I can move around instead of being strapped to a machine. Also, if everything is normal, I don’t need to wear the monitor (most hospitals require this).
3. Tubs to labor in. As long as my water hasn’t broken, I can hang out in a tub during labor. They don’t offer water births, which is honestly fine with me, but this is an incredible option to have. PLUS, the wireless monitor works in the tub. Suh-weet!
4. Supportive of various birthing positions.
5. It is not hospital policy, nor my practice’s policy to have an IV.
6. The practice has an extremely low C-section rate.
7. If for some reason I need to have a C-section, one of the midwives attends the delivery in the operating room. Note: midwives don’t perform C-sections. This is wonderful news to hear, meaning we will have someone we actually know there to tell us what’s going on and to oversee the procedure. That’s huge in my book.

Cons:

1. The practice is 45 - 60 minutes away depending on traffic. I’m not really worried about this in regards of delivering, as most first time moms labor slowly, and after all, if we lived in a small town, an hour to a hospital is not out of the norm. But it will be a hike for bi-monthly visits and obviously somewhat inconvenient after the baby is born, and we will need to have someone scheduled to stop by the house to feed the dogs while in the hospital.

I am planning on continuing with my practice through week 28, where I will take the glucose screening test. After that, I plan on switching over to the new practice.

four things

Thursday, May 29th, 2008

Four places I go over and over: library, post office, bathroom, bed.

Four people who e-mail me (regularly): Nana, Matt, Gwen, Margie.

Four of my favorite places to eat: Nana’s, Macaroni Grill, Le Vieux Bistro, Tadich Grill.

Four places I would rather be right now: on the beach, in the mountains, Europe, on a vacation with the hubby.

Four TV shows I watch over and over: College football is about it…just don’t watch much television…

Tagged by Gwen.

goodbye richard john

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

On Monday, a friend of ours, Richard John, lost his life to pancreatic cancer.

Richard was a fanatical BMW enthusiast, active member of the Tarheel Chapter of BMW CCA and phenomenal track instructor, not to mention a great person.  This is how I want to remember Richard. Driving his car off into the sunset on the Blue Ridge Parkway…  Although he is no longer with us, his spirit will live on at VIR.  Goodbye, Richard.

take a guess tuesday : week thirty-six

Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

Why was Emme so enthralled with the woodstove?

status update : week 24

Friday, May 23rd, 2008

What a week. The saga/drama continues.

First of all, I’m feeling fine. I’ve started doing this weird thing where I wake up to pee after only being in bed a few hours, then wake up again right before Matt’s alarm goes off. I will then be wide awake before needing to take a mid-morning nap. It’s strange this rhythm my body is moving to. I am needing to get used to it.

Also, food still remains somewhat of a struggle for me. I just have no appetite. I’ve come to the conclusion that with my nose being somewhat “off”, things just smell very differently to me. A craving for a baked potato wasn’t satiated after dinner at Outback, a place we rarely go, but damn, their baked potatoes used to bring me back begging for more. Not anymore. I am noticing that I can’t eat as large of a meal and get full much, much quicker. I have given up on watering myself, and have begun to drink juices, lemonade and Propel waters to increase my liquid intake. In my next life I will be born to like the taste of water.

So, the saga…

Our visit to the doctor’s office was somewhat of a disappointment. I was scolded for reading too much once I began to ask questions about the hospital procedures. I assume that the dumber you are in the delivery room, the more complacent of a patient you are because you are clueless about what’s taking place. Not only did I find this disturbing, but I also was frustrated that I didn’t feel like I was on the same page with my practice.

The following night we toured the hospital and the nursery facilities. I must have been this tour guide’s nightmare because I had my notebook full of questions to ask, including what was the C-section rate for the hospital. In the hospital world they don’t want to disclose numbers, but I was able to coax it out of her, finding out the rate was almost 40%, which is high in comparison not only to the average for the state, but the average for the United States, much less the rest of the world. But the kicker for me was that the tour guide didn’t know what a birthing stool was, and she has taught Lamaze for over twenty years. I definitely feel like a fish out of water.

What’s a girl to do?

take a guess tuesday : week thirty-five

Tuesday, May 20th, 2008

This week’s question doesn’t have a right or wrong answer, just place your vote!

We have yet to pick out a nickname for the baby, but here are some that we have thought of. Which one do you like the best? Do you have a better suggestion?

a. butter bean
b. cricket
c. bubble (”bub” for short)
d. jumpin’ bean

our secret is out…

Monday, May 19th, 2008

…and we are putting it out there so that everyone knows that…

I’m pregnant!!

We are expecting our little addition to arrive sometime around September 12, 2008. Our plans are not to find out the sex, so in the end we will all be surprised!

I have kept a journal and a somewhat private blog elsewhere to keep track of the past few months and I’m currently in the process of uploading the contents into journeyoflife, so bear with me as I properly categorize the new posts.

status update : week 23

Friday, May 16th, 2008

Whenever a baby is born in Matt’s family, Matt’s mom makes a baby quilt, and gorgeous ones at that. This past weekend for Mother’s Day, we went to a local quilt shop where I picked out the colors for our baby’s quilt. Here’s some pictures I took with my camera phone while at the quilt shop.

Obviously, since we don’t know the sex (and aren’t planning on finding out) the colors will be gender neutral, with an emphasis on greens and blues and a sprinkling of typical pastel baby colors. I’m so excited to see the finished product.

Also this week we toured a local birthing center. We were disappointed on a couple levels. First of all, unless you call the center as soon as you have a positive pregnancy test, the chances of you being able to birth with one of their midwives is slim to nil. Of course, they want to limit their practice to twenty-five deliveries per month, and this makes perfect sense, however, over half the attendees there (including ourselves) are on the waiting list and have little chance of making the cut. Secondly, we learned basically nothing during the informational session. From our extensive reading, we were well aware of how birthing centers operate as well as what midwives can and cannot do. I believe this is completely representative of the average population. People do more research when buying a car. However, I did like the earthy midwife conducting the session and know if this is an option for future children, I will have the phone in hand when I pee on a stick. But, this really isn’t an open option to us at this time.

I guess I’m resigned to the fact that other than choosing a midwife that our insurance won’t cover, we need to stay put at the practice we are currently with. Our other options (covered by insurance) are to go to a birthing center about an hour away or to choose another midwife practice about forty-five minutes away. At this time, I’m not sure these are options to pursue. Oh, wouldn’t life be easier if I didn’t give a damn?

take a guess tuesday : week thirty-four

Tuesday, May 13th, 2008

When spring gears up in full swing, I want to open up the windows, let the breezes blow the winter cooties out, and turn up the stereo. Something about the warm weather and open windows make me want listen to some of my favorite tunes. Oddly enough, there’s a group of artists on my spring playlist. Who are they?

a. Alison Krauss, Ray Charles, Debbie Gibson and DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince
b. Neil Diamond, Sublime, Kathy Mattea, Lionel Richie and James Taylor
c. Dolly Parton, They Might Be Giants, Kenny Loggins and Trisha Yearwood
d. Janis Joplin, Van Morrison, LL Cool J, Carole King and the Bee Gees

cottage pudding cake

Monday, May 12th, 2008

1 1/2 cups flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup sugar
1/4 pound butter
1/2 cup milk
1 egg

Preheat the oven to 400°F. Butter and lightly flour an 8-inch square cake pan. Mix the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar together in a large bowl. Melt the butter in a small pan, remove from the heat, and stir in the milk and the egg, beating well. Add to the flour mixture and blend. Pour into the pan and bake for about 25 minutes, until a toothpick comes out clean.

Serve with fresh fruit and ice cream or whipped cream.

Recipe courtesy of Matt’s mom, Margie.

Cunningham, Marion. “Cottage Pudding Cake.” Recipe. The Fannie Farmer Cookbook. New York: Alfred A. Knoph, Inc., 1990. 584-585.